SOMETIMES WE CAN FEEL LIKE OUR LIFE IS OUT OF CONTROL AND WE ARE ON A RUNAWAY TRAIN. GAYNOR PARKE SHOWS YOU HOW TO TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK AND GET BACK ON TRACK.

You know that feeling when your brain just doesn't want to stop? It's like a run away train that has no tracks and zig zags all over the place at high speed. When things seem to come out of the blue and bite you on your "sit muscles" and you can go off into a spin. That happened to me recently so I had to call on my Inner Coach to help me out.

You know that quiet place within that doesn't get ruffled and knows how to say yes and mean it and say no and mean it, sets up boundaries and does what's most joyful and has a blast. That's the place where love and peace rule. We all get distracted from time to time away from that healing, joyful, harmonious place. We can find ourselves miles off into what feels like a dry baron desert, of lifeless routine day after day, where we can feel alone even with your family or feel badly treated by a partner or college. All these negative feelings can surface without even having left home. We don't need things in our lives to change that much for us to feel terrible or just empty. It feels like life can grab hold of you spin you around and all of a sudden you are off balance and can't understand what happened.

So what do we do? "Snap out of it" some would say, "there are a lot of people worse off than you". Big help (not) if you're feeling like crap. Some would be all cheery and say "it all happens for a reason"- just makes you want press their mute button to keep them. So what then? What do you do if you feel like crap and are angry at the world? There's only one thing for it, take your life back.

When we're feeling bad you're usually feeling disempowered. Feeling like you have lost control. It can feel like someone just whisked your life away from you and you have lost your choices. The best thing is to just stop. Just stop right where you are and don't look for reasons, don't look for who is at fault, don't look at all of the mess that seems to be laid at your feet, just look at where you want to go. Someone may well have done something to hurt you, someone may not be appreciating you, your life may well be the same old routine over and over, you may well be in a situation you can't change right now, but continuing to give that your attention won't help you.

The best thing you can do is to make a resolution that you have decided from this moment on, you want to "feel better". That is the most powerful thing anyone can do. Wanting to feel better means re-directing your mind. Re-directing it to a place that brings you relief. Relief from the punishing, disempowering thoughts that give that run away train fuel. Negative thoughts never bring you joy. No matter how justified you may be to think something negative, it will only create more negative experiences in your life. The only purpose of a less than loving experience is to highlight the opposite of what you want so you are clearer about what it is that you actually do want.

So how do we derail the run away train, how do we take back our life and redirect our thoughts away from painful negative thoughts? We look forward. We fill our minds with thoughts of how we want our life to be, of what we want for ourselves, of thoughts that make us feel good. We can look back and use memories or we can look forward to the future and describe to ourselves how we want our life to be. Paint pictures in your mind. Create travel brochures, movies or snap shots in your mind of what you want your life to be like. Some people suggest a vision board. Collect pictures from brochures, magazines and make a board of images to look at that represents your wildest dreams of pleasure and joy. Don't want to buy the magazines, search the interent and collect the images that way.

Whatever helps you to focus away from what makes you feel bad and directs your attention onto what feels good, do it. Don't get caught up in the how these things will come to pass, just do it because it distracts you from the negative. Reclaiming your thoughts is what will re-empower you. Reclaiming your thoughts will set you mind on the tracks to places that allow inspiration to be heard, and happiness to rein. Take back your life by redirecting your mind from negative thoughts to those of love and support. Your outer world is always reflecting your inner world so when you change your inner world to more of what pleases you, your outer world must change for the better. You are the only one who has the power to create peace and harmony in your mind and thus your world.

Have fun with keeping your train going in the direction you want.

Gaynor Parke is an author, sales trainer and CEO of Advanced Success Life Coaching. With over 25 years of personal development, business knowledge and a unique intuitive ability Gaynor has a vast array of skills and experience to draw. For your free copy of "Eight Powerful Steps To Create a More Successful Life" visit Gaynor's website www.advancedsuccesslifecoaching.com.au