One of the key questions asked by most couples is "How can I have more intimacy in my life and with my partner?" Id like to introduce you to the 'INTIMATE METHOD'

I is for intention - When you said YES to that relationship, it was your intention to truly enjoy your relationship not endure it. Actions definitely speak louder than words. Do you sometimes find yourself saying you are going to do something special for your spouse but somehow other things get in the way and it never happens? So be intent and also act on that intention.

N is for never, never give up - Continue to look for ways to enrich and equip your relationship. Imagine that there was no divorce, there was no seperation. Would you handle situations differently? Would you make more of an effort to forgive and forget in order to keep the relationship moving forward? Society today accepts divorce way too easily and this is a sad thing. When you said your marriage vows 'for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health.... Those are strong words. You never said 'I will continue to love you only when I feel like its going well for me'. You said, 'thick or thin I am there for you'. Now put your money where your mouth is and do just that. You may just be surprised at what comes out of that level of commitment.

T is for transparency - you need to speak your mind in a loving way. Even though it seems you can read your mans mind, he can't read yours. Actually its probably a good thing he doesnt! When you have something important to say think about how your partner will interpret your words. Men may be big and strong on the outside but their feelings can be hurt the same as ours. If you feel you do need to say what you really feel then do it in a way that will be a positive conversation. No one likes to be criticised.

I is for Intimacy - create your own intimate play with your partner. Discover what works for you and what works for him, and go from there!! Remember true intimacy only happens when you let yourself become vulnerable. Take a risk and get close with your husband, both physically and emotionally.

M is for manage - I am a woman which is hard enough, I am a wife which is hard at times, I am a mother which is never enough and yes I am a business woman which is more than enough, but thankfully women can multitask!! Managing your time is essential to living a well balanced life. We all have the same 24 hours each day. With our frantic lifestyles it is very easy to fill all 24 hours without even thinking about it. Instead you need to set aside time for your husband and intimacy. Keeping your marriage together IS more important than any TV show, or mothers group, or facial treatment.....

A is for Analise and authenticity - get good at analising your relationship looking to see how you can be the change that you want to see. Are you being authentic or just putting on a show. Save your best for your relationship. When things are going well work out why. When they are going not so good, step outside the situation for 5 minutes and look from an outside perspective as to what is actually going on. Many times we are so emotionally worked up that we cant clearly see the real problem, and often that problem is actually us!

T is for Trust - True intimacy is not without TRUST. Dont be too quick to jump in and be critical of each others needs and wants. We are all different and only with trust they can be met. Your partner needs to feel like they can tell you anything and not be condemmed or overly judged. We arent perfect and it is vital to have a high level of trust with our spouse. This will help you get through many challenges in life knowing that your husband is on your team!

E is for energy and environment - As women we have the capacity to bring good energy or bad energy into our relationships. What is your home, social and work environment like? A loving and respectful environment will promote intimacy and help a couple to grow. Practically speaking this might mean having a 'sensual' bedroom that isnt covered in dirty laundry or kids toys. Make your bedroom your special area, no kids, no pets, no distractions allowed.

These are simple points to remember. Read through them again and see how you can apply them to your life. Get INTIMATE with your man!

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