Have you ever considered how much of an impact your choices have made on your life? Have you thought about how they can affect your levels of self esteem?

If you were to take the time to look closely at your life as it is right now you may easily be able to see how the choices you have made along the way have landed you where you are today. The big question is... Are you where you want to be?

Whenever I look over the ocean and see the horizon stretching way into the distance it reminds me of the endless possibilities and abundance that is available to us all whenever we choose. If you were willing to be consciously aware of the choices you have made and what they meant for you, would you still choose the same ones that have put you where you are today? Now I'm not saying you must look back with regret or despair if you're not happy with your choices, what I am saying is that if you are in some way unhappy or dissatisfied with any area of our life then you have the choice to do something about it.

Your self esteem and confidence can be directly affected by your choices, especially if you make your choices with others in mind instead of yourself. For instance, imagine you have made a choice that goes against what you truly want or desire however you feel compelled to go against what you want because of the effect it may have on someone else. Can you see how this could impact on you in a negative way and serve only to diminish your sense of self worth instead of building on it? When you make choices to please others instead of yourself then this can result in feelings of resentment, regret and frustration. Sometimes putting yourself first is the best thing to do and although it is very important in life to be considerate of others it becomes unhealthy if it leads to the extent where you place yourself second best.

It's also important to note that quality questions will support your choices and help you to have more of an awareness of why you are choosing what you are. When making choices it is wise to ask yourself these three questions:

• Am I making this choice for me or am I making it for others?
• Will this choice empower me or serve to disempower me?
• Will this choice propel me towards my greatest desire or will it keep me stuck?

If you are aware of why and what you are choosing and, ensuring that you are making the choice for yourself, then you will be moving in the right direction and creating the life you desire. If there is anything in your life right now that doesn't feel right, ask yourself what choices you have and determine which choices will be best for YOU.

Choose to boost your levels of self esteem by doing what's best for you. Choose to raise your levels of self confidence by doing what gets you to where you want to go especially, if it takes you out of your comfort zone. Confidence comes from the doing. Take the time to discover what it is you truly want out of life and weigh up the choices you have that will get you there. Choose to move forward and toward what you desire instead of staying stuck or moving yourself further away from your ideal life. Change doesn't happen by chance it happens by choice.

Make quality choices, ask quality questions and secure yourself a quality life. YOU deserve it.

Susan Briggs holds a Diploma in Life Coaching and is a Certified Hypnotherapist, ACT Therapist and NLP Practitioner. Owner of Yes U Can 4 Women, Susan is passionate about assisting women to create the life they want. For more information phone 0430 118 733, email; This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it or visit the website at; www.yesucan4women.com.au